Does Your Chronic Pain Control You?

“Healing does not mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls you.” Akshay Dubay

Do you have days where the damage does exist and controls your thoughts? Are you experiencing new aches and pains? Do you feel depressed about the things you can no longer do? Have you locked yourself into a place that thriving is so far away from where you are that you can’t imagine not being controlled by your pain?

Stop fighting yourself in those moments to be someone other than who you are right now. Take the time to acknowledge how you feel. Use up all your curse words. Take a mental health day and lick your wounds.

Do what you need to do release the anger and the grief that comes with persistent pain. Accept that not every day is an upbeat day. Then start again.

“There’s a difference between giving up and knowing when you’ve had enough.” Vio Quenn

When you’ve had enough, close your eyes and scan your body. This is an easy activity that you can do quickly. The idea behind this is that you think you have pain everywhere when you actually don’t. It’s true. Some areas will be quite comfortable. Focus on those and be grateful.

Use anything that is simple for you and helps bring you out of stuck moments. You know when you get lost.

If your pain and diagnoses are new, grieve your loss. If you’re having a cruddy day, allow your feelings and then get over it. Start coming back up and out of yourself. Get help if you need it. Search the internet for upbeat quotes that make your mind and body sing.

Please feel free to use the “9 Easy Ways to Reduce Your Chronic Pain in 2020” that I posted in January. 

Let me know how I may support you.


Gail Sinclair, Master Hypnotherapist, Certified Nutritional Consultant, & Karuna® Reiki Master Teacher works diligently to teach others how to work through the 7 Stages of Chronic Pain and Learn How to Thrive™. She lives with Trigeminal, Occipital Neuralgia and Glossopharyngeal Neuralgia, arthritis, & Fibromyalgia to name a few and continues to learn tools to turn her attention away from persistent pain.

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